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So Tim had his annual St. Patrick's Day party overlooking the parade on Monday. When the sun was out the weather was bearable but when it went behind the clouds it was pretty miserable on the rooftop. Chuck was calling the auction and when that happened, he went to the indoor section of the bar which was then PACKED. Truly uncomfortable for a claustrophobe like me, I had to decide if I want to stay there or freeze outside. Eventually I chose the latter.

As always it took me awhile to leave the apartment--between showering and posting on Facebook about how much I loved Dublin when I was there and then daydreaming on Facebook about planning an equestrian tour to Ireland, I didn't leave the apartment until 1:00. Took the 6 to 59th and was able to cross Fifth Avenue to the other side fairly easily--the weather had one benefit! As I made my way from 59th down to 55th (where the Peninsula is), I saw a group of protestors holding signs about the anti-gay policies. I caught the eye of one of them and gave them a "right on!" gesture. The guy asked if I wanted to hold one, I said sure but I said I couldn't do it for long, I had to go to a party. We chatted for a bit, and then two younger people, in their 20s, stopped by and chatted as well. They also approved. When I left I took a rainbow sticker and wore it on my Irish sweater.

Had a bad experience when I first got there. I got some coffee and moved out onto the rooftop (it was still sunny at that point). I started chatting with someone new and then an older guy (late 50s or 60s) came over and was awkwardly trying to take off the round green plastic derby I was wearing and exchange it for a green plastic boater hat. I was saying to him actually I prefer the derby and he jammed the derby on top of the other hat and gave it back to me. (This was all very friendly, nothing creepy or anything.) I looked up and noticed--the guy had little flecks of blood all over his lips. And his hands. I guess he had some kind of tooth problem. I tell you, it was all I could do not to vomit on the spot. I have an extraordinarily high gag reflex, one that has only gotten worse as I've gotten older. I've been known to vomit when I change the cat box. I had to drop my eyes so I didn't see his face which of course seems rude and I tried to excuse myself so I could run to the bathroom--I was that nauseated. But I couldn't even make it indoors--I had to stop by the trash and just GAG, over and over. I literally willed myself not to throw up on in front of everybody. Oh God, it was awful. I felt kind of sick for the rest of the afternoon--in fact even Tuesday I didn't feel that great.



Other than that, it was great! :) I sang Danny Boy and How Are Things in Glocca Morra? And I made sure Dermot, the singer, got himself plenty of tea and hot things for his voice. He is so nice.





After I left work I met Tim and a bunch of his friends downtown at Arte, an Italian restaurant where we used to go a lot. Tim knows the owner. We had a big table and sitting on my left were two girls, one Russian and one Ukrainian. I greeted the Russian girl по-русски and eventually struck up a conversation with the Ukrainian, who was sitting right next to me. I must say she did not impress me at first--I could overhear some of her conversation with the other girl and there seemed to be a ton of drama going on, hushed tense conversations and getting up and leaving a lot and making a show of not ordering anything. A little later we were talking about plays and shows (she says she's a singer, went to La Guardia High and said she knew Shakespeare). She asked me what my favorite Shakespeare play was--I said jeez, do I have to narrow it down to just one? I told her my favorite comedy was probably Midsummer and my favorite tragedy was the Scottish play. She had never heard the term so I explained to her that saying the name M****** out loud was bad luck and so people call it Macker, the Scottish play, etc. This is where she really irritated me. she hadn't heard of it--fine--but then she refused to believe it. She gave me this extremely skeptical look like--prove it. Raised eyebrows, pursed mouth, the works. And shook her head. Look little girl, you weren't even born here or in an English-speaking country. Whereas I not only studied English literature, but I grew up HEARING this constantly from my classically-trained grandmother! My first Shakespeare play was when I was 9 years old! And this is my career. What the hell? I wish you could've seen the *look* on her face, I wanted to slap her, hard. Instead I did the WASPy thing and politely turned away and just avoided conversation with her. SO RUDE.

She must've gotten the idea because when she next broached conversation with me, she was much more friendly. We ended up having a decent conversation although she was still quite prickly. Eg., anytime I expanded on a term or a concept (at one point I used the term riffing, which is when instead of hitting a note and staying on it, you improvise a run on the note. It's a pop term, Xtina Aguilera and Mariah Carey are known for it), she immediately cut me off "I know what that means." O-kay. I will say, when she found out how old I was she went bananas, absolutely flipping out over how young I looked. "Oh my GOD, I cannottt beleev it! You ahr so byewteefool!" (My awkward rendering of a slight Ukrainian accent, exaggerated for humor.) On and on!
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I miss London. How can you miss a place you've visited (really visited--I've been in and out of it before on flights) only once? Well when I went there in '09 I said it felt like coming home. I need to start planning another visit except that I have to go to Oslo first! My brother and his family are posted there--they moved last summer and will be there for three years. I have never been to any part of Scandinavia and we have Scandinavia ancestry so I'm excited. The Norwegians always seem so happy. Plus the land of Ibsen must have a great theater scene.

The Mardi Gras party went *very* well this year--we had quite a decent turnout, including a bunch of people who said things like "I've been hearing about this party for years, I have to come." It's definitely a handicap having a party on a Tuesday but after all it's Mardi Gras, not Samedi Gras :) I made a new item, a Cajun dip that FLEW off the shelves, as it were. I'd had the idea that I could make a Cajun version of a nine-layer dip--I could make it ahead of time and put it in the refrigerator (a lot of the stuff I make for the party has to be made then and there, like the red beans and rice). Mom went online and found a recipe for a hot Cajun dip you could make in the slow cooker. It's trayf as all hell, with shrimp and bacon and all sorts of things. I made it during the day on Tuesday (I realized I'd never cooked bacon before--I was going to go online to see how to do it, then I realized "maybe the directions are on the package" and they were! So now I know how to cook bacon :) As I was making it I had a feeling it would be a hit so I doubled the recipe--excellent idea! I barely got any at all, it was a such a hit. Next year I'll triple the recipe.

Had a lot of soccer teammates there--Zach and Lindsay's BF won the babies and posed adorably with them. LOT of former roommates there, including Lori, Anya and Mickey! (Missing just one HINT HINT ;) Mickey brought Kim, his new wife--she is a total sweetheart and was raving about "what a good idea this is for a party!" Hopefully they will be able to come next year. Lori was so cute and protective--I'd barely had anything to eat or drink so she made a plate for me.

Peter came and seemed to have a good time. Griffin was kind of...hostile about him. He was *really* drunk by the end of the night and drunkenly told me he thought Peter was sleazy or something. Ah, Griffin, ever the soul of tact! He always gets grumpy around any guy who has better game than he does. Peter is a little...forward but that's what I love about him :) He was talking to me and Lori and someone else about his daughters and how beautiful they were and he said "they look like these two" (meaning Lori and me)--isn't that sweet! He does give the nicest compliments. It was a little funny, I was agreeing with him about how beautiful they are (his daughters really are lovely, with huge Amanda-Seyfried eyes) and somehow the subject of his ex-wife came up. He said something to me about her, clearly soliciting my agreement and I said "I barely remember her, we met only once at the Annie Get Your Gun opening night party at Tavern on the Green." Peter, you really need to keep the women in your life straight! Anyway, he was proud of me for nabbing this beautiful apartment.

The party ended kind of early, around 12:30 (some years it goes to 2 or later). This was fine by me, as I was exhausted by that time. Jonny (Anya's roommate and a friend of mine), his BF and Anya left last. The apartment is still bedecked with balloons and garland, I am waiting to take them down until my friend Katie comes over. She didn't come to the party because she was feeling depressed that night so I want her to come visit for a mini-Mardi Gras (I still have hurricane mix left over). I was exhausted pretty much all of last week--after our soccer game Saturday morning I came back and took a FOUR HOUR nap. Sunday I slept most of the day. I actually feel okay today--fully rested for once. It's a Lenten miracle!
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Soccer on Saturday was interesting. We've had the last several weeks off due to the snow on the field and finally they deemed it okay to play again. But now we're way behind the schedule so they scheduled a bunch of doubleheaders. We had to play two games back to back--this would normally not be too terrible except that 1) I haven't done any cardio in quite a while and am not up for a lot of running, 2) a lot of our team couldn't be there so we were undermanned, and 3) there was still a lot of snow on the field. No ice at least but the snow just STOPS the ball. It's difficult to pass, it's difficult to run (you feel as if you're running underwater, plus you slip and fall a lot) and very difficult to get a good kick off (impossible to plant your foot). I was absolutely dead by the end of the first game and I am still feeling the pain in my hips and thighs today. I did score, one weird squirter of a shot that went through the goalie's arms. So I've made my quota of one goal per league season except that since I scored twice in the summer season and 3 times last fall, I need to raise my expectations! Maybe two goals per season...

So I've been gobbling up the Games naturally--mostly figure skating though. Was kind of disgusted with the men's performances--when the gold and silver medalists fall THAT many times, it's embarrassing. To put this in perspective, all 9 of the top women skaters had cleaner long programs than the men's GOLD AND SILVER medalists! I do like the team event--it's always kind of saddened me that figure skaters have only one shot at a medal, whereas in my other favorite Olympic sport, gymnastics, any one gymnasts has the potential to medal SIX times (team, all-around plus 4 event finals). All that work and only one shot at a medal, and training skating is MUCH more expensive than training gymnastics.

So the women's event was brilliant--the best women's long I can remember. Mao Asada BLEW ME AWAY. She threw her beloved triple axel and FINALLY, finally finally finally, landed it--I started crying, I was so proud of her. And the rest of her program was aces as well. Just amazing, I feel privileged to have watched it. Re: little Yulia--I was skeptical all along that she was going to medal, much less challenge for gold. There is a lot more to skating than extreme flexibility and she is very young and skates like a very young skater. Her jumps are tiny, she's kind of a bot out there, no real presence. I was dying when Sandra Bezic kept praising her "maturity beyond her years"--she's *clean,* but she's certainly not mature! Mature skaters do not portray to the GIRL in the red dress, who is very young in the movie, no older than 6-7. By definition that is a junior-ish program. Not that junior-ish skaters can't win (look at Tara Lipinski in '97-'98--her short program was very junior-ish, with her dirndl dress and skating to Anastasia the cartoon, ugh! Her long program looked much better) but it's considered kind of undesirable.



This is her "playing in the snow" choreography, UGH. STOP PORTRAYING LITTLE GIRLS.

I was disappointed that Ashley's scores were so low-balled. She skated two mostly clean (except for the UR on that jump both times) programs and she finished *behind* Yulia who fell twice? Come on, guys. Ashley was absolutely right to call that shit out. I'm glad she won a team bronze and that all 3 of her programs went well--she was under *enormous* pressure after her disastrous Nationals. (She fell a lot and finished 4th overall but the USFSA named her to the team anyway over Mirai Nagasu because this was basically the best program Mirai has skated in years and she's less consistent than Ashley. The whole thing was controversial and a lot of people who don't follow skating are weighing in with their stupid opinions and harassing Ashley. I wish both of them well but I think the USFSA made the right decision--of the 5 individual skaters (Gracie Gold, Ashley, Polina Edmonds, Jeremy Abbott and Jason Brown), Ashley skated the cleanest, not one fall. ANYWAY.)

Carolina Kostner nailed the shit out of her LP--skating to Bolero takes some ovaries (since Torvill and Dean slayed with it in '84 and got straight sixes for artistry) but she made it her own. Loved her step sequence and her manifest joy and serenity sent chills down my spine! I'm just thrilled for her.

I thought Adelina skated a good program--her jumps were *excellent,* very high and she traveled quite far on them. And I liked her energy and how she worked the crowd--it was great to hear the audience roaring their approval. But it was not a perfect program with that stepout and her choreography is pretty bad. Waving to the crowd on her spirals? Miming tug of war? I can't even. I do think Yuna, who skated flawlessly, should've won and the *margin* of victory--five points which is quite large--makes me think something's up. There is just no way she deserved a victory by that much. Honestly I love Russian skating but that is some bullshit. I really doubt it was a fix, I think the explanation is simpler, it's favoritism and bias.

But frankly I doubt Yuna cares that much--girl is READY to retire and live off the buckets of money she makes for endorsements and good for her. It will be interesting to see what South Korea does though.
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I have a Coach gift certificate (I sent in a bag to them to be repaired and they deemed it unrepairable so they issued me a card for what they thought the bag was worth). As it turned out it was a little too cold to be browsing in the plaza, so I turned into J. Crew instead. Found a cute shirt:



The color is listed as "pack green" but it's almost a teal--which is a great color for me! As I tried it on I was remembering the old "Color Me Beautiful" paradigm. *grabbing cane* Back in the '80s a book came out called Color Me Beautiful that became a huge thing. The idea was that you sort yourself according to your coloring--hair and complexion--into a "season," and that indicates which colors flatter you best. For the longest time I thought I was a spring/summer and should wear pastels (light blue, light pink). But those colors look bland on me because *I* have light blue eyes, and pale pink skin! Jewel tones suit me much better. Besides, I enjoy the drama of jewel tones :) And I like to wear colors I should *never* be able to pull off, like yellow and orange and gold. As long as you accessorize and pair appropriately, in theory you can wear almost any color.

I also think that J. Crew is kind of overpriced. I love their stuff but it's not exactly fashion-forward--it's all preppy separates. (Similarly to Ralph Lauren which is WAY overpriced.) On the other hand it's a good value--relentlessly untrendy (er--classic, I mean ;) therefore you can wear the clothes forever! And maybe that's why they price it so high :) Anyway, I almost never buy J. Crew or Ralph Lauren unless it's on sale.
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THIS WEATHER. I just cannot with this winter. But yesterday and today it's been much warmer--I've actually been able to ditch my down coat for my lighter L.L. Bean coat. With temperatures in the 40s (and I think tomorrow it will get up to the low 50s), the snow and ice is melting and the city is very drippy and wet. Starting to get hints of spring, yay!

And it's not even the oppressive cold that's been so bad. My apartment is quite cozy and comfortable, and my down coat really does keep out the cold. It's that it's so difficult to *exercise.* I can't run when it's in the teens out--my eyes start tearing up and I'm more likely to get hurt. I can run in the 20s, no problem, but no colder than that. Also we haven't been able to play soccer in a month because the fields are in such bad shape. NO SOCCER. FOR A MONTH. I am DYING here!

I spilled a drink on my MacBook Air laptop last September and decided I would not dip into my savings and buy a new one right away. I would do the responsible thing and save for it. So for the past few months I have really cut back as much as possible on all discretionary spending--and finally two weeks ago I bought my new laptop. *claps hands excitedly* And as another small reward to myself, I bought a new Coach purse--but this was not a huge expense. I'm a member of the Coach factory outlet site--you have to be invited to join and somehow I rated an invitation *smirk.* They must've known of my addiction! Anyway they only have sales a few times a year and they had one a week ago. So I bought this pretty little thing:



SO CUTE AND YELLOW I JUST CANNOT
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So, just how was Flowers in the Attic? Um, not great. But not terrible--but I will admit, I was hoping for much better. They got the atmosphere okay--I liked the claustrophobia of the room and I liked how the attic looked. Chris at least was good looking and could act (sort of), and the twins were cute, and Heather Graham--was a'ight, I thought. She sure looks like Corrine, and she pulls off that vibe of the pretty girl that never had to do anything hard. But I kept getting stuck on Kiernan Sjipka who is just. not. Cathy. She just isn't. You need a girl who is conventionally pretty, and Kiernan Shipka really isn't. Cathy is supposed to look JUST LIKE her mother, and Corrine is the classic gorgeous, rich, WASPy blonde. Also KS's voice is pitched very low for a young girl and it just detracts from the Cathy-look and -feel. Cathy is also a ballet dancer in training (so, she's super-fit with long legs) and she must--MUST--have LONG BLONDE HAIR. She has it when they first enter the house (because her father had always liked her hair) and then they're in there for 3+ years and she says "each of grew lots of hair." Why must the moviemakers always overlook this? This is important not just for her characterization (Cathy's fragile-pretty looks are ironic since she's the strongest and the toughest of the four kids, the only one who stands up to Corrine) but Chris's as well. These characters are not supposed to look ordinary, every day--they're supposed to look like they've stepped out of a fairy tale, because that's the kind of story it is. And that's how they think--Cathy thinks of Chris as the knight who will protect her and save her, and the grandmother is the evil witch.

Also, sorry to say that Ellen Bursten, while a terrific actor, really wasn't playing the grandmother. She was too...how can I say this...kind of messy in her line readings, too...trivial, too openly emotional. The grandmother is a stone cold, absolutely heartless* character. Think Ursa from Superman II--THAT kind of cold. She despises them but she's always, always in control. Ellen looked more annoyed and harried than anything, and it just wasn't right. You need to be able to imagine Corrine growing up with a mother like that so you can understand why she turned out the way she did.

At least the incest hadn't been cut but it was weird--way too romantic, and not rape the way it was in the book. In the book they dance closer and closer to how they feel about each other and they talk about it, in hints. Cathy says "then you do think I'm pretty?" and Chris says yes, "but brothers don't think about sisters as girls." And he kisses her full on the lips when he goes out to explore the house one night, and she thinks "such a peculiar long kiss, to give me the sensation that I was falling down, down, down, when I was already lying down." And he stares at her when she's dancing--it's all very romantic until he explodes and then it's not remotely soft-focus, it's obviously traumatic and violent. And afterward they're horrified at what they've done, they go out onto the roof and stare up at the moon, imagining it to be the eye of God, judging them.

In the Lifetime version they lead up to it fine but instead of him exploding they melt into consensual sex and they even have an AFTERGLOW--which poor Carrie witnesses because she comes in to tell them that Cory is sick! EW!!!! I'm not opposed in principle to changing it from rape since that's a huge TW for a lot of people but it *should* be messed up and weird, NOT romantic. And certainly their baby sister should not have to see them cuddling afterward.


Say NO to the afterglow!


I did like that they had the party. They also showed the Swan Bed but it did not look as I imagined it (wasn't it supposed to be round? I guess round bedding would be difficult to get but hey--THEY'RE FOXWORTHS). I wish they'd explored Cory a bit more--he necessarily gets such short shrift in the series because he dies so soon, but I loved how thoughtful he was and I even loved that he was such a good musican at such a young age. "I wish the night would end/I wish the day'd begin..." Dee-pressing!

Anyway overall I'd say this version was a solid double, as opposed to the 3-called-strikes humiliation of the first movie. And apparently it got good enough ratings that Lifetime is making the sequel, Petals on the Wind! THERE'S a good book, so much plot you need a concordance! And great characters like Julian and Bart Winslow and Yolands. (Although Dr. Paul was gross.)

We lived in the attic
Christopher, Cory, Carrie and me
Now there are only three



*Or is she? There are a couple of hints in FITA that Olivia has some interesting layers and is not completely heartless, and then her character is explored in great depth in Garden of Shadows.

WTFriday

Jan. 31st, 2014 10:28 am
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Okay, so WTFUCK is going on with Bruce Jenner? He's obviously got a thing for plastic surgery but is he seriously transgender? Is he leading up to a sex change operation? The weird thing to me is how famous the guy still is--and kids, let me tell you (as I sit myself down heavily using my cane), I remember waaaaay back when Bruce Jenner FIRST became famous, when he won the gold medal in the decathlon in '76 at the Montreal Olympics. He and Nadia Comaneci became household names, and they were the only two athletes I remember being aware of after those Games. After Nadia every little girl in America was doing cartwheels and roundoffs on her front lawn--aw, the '70s! I remember my friend Sharon swearing to me and our friend Beth that she'd done an aerial (a cartwheel without hands) and we called. her. OUT. ("Nuh-UH! I don't believe you!") I was proud of my roundoffs though, I got air time on them :)

ANYWAY. Bruce Jenner was VERY famous after the Olympics but, although I knew he was an athlete, he was better-known for being kind of a famewhore. You saw him EVERYWHERE--on the Wheaties box, in commercials, in magazines, on TV. I have a vivid memory of me, little kid me, doing a joke for my parents where I would run in slo-mo waving my hands (like an Olympics victory lap), pretend to trip and then pop up again instantly, still waving--and what I was spoofing was his apparent need for attention. (On the other hand being an Olympian is an awesome accomplishment and to the victor go the spoils--if he could make money after spending years training for the decathlon, good for him.) Anyway it is kind of amazing he's still on the front pages literally generations later!

And WTF is up with that Knox verdict?! My jaw literally dropped open when I saw that the Italian legal system had embarrassed itself yet AGAIN. Guys, there is NO EVIDENCE, zip, nada, none that proves Amanda or Raffaele has anything to do with this. But there is TONS of physical evidence, including all kinds of DNA, that prove the drifter with the violent record who tried to leave the country afterward, did it. But by the time you found out about him, you'd already committed to your weird Satanic sex ritual theory--so you went to the drifter and gave him a LIGHTER sentence in exchange for him fingering two people he didn't even know! Come on, guys, simple logic here. Do you really think a couple of kids could thoroughly wipe a violent crime scene of their own DNA, seen and unseen, but leave the third participant's all over the room? Come on, guys. I can't help but feel this is the Italian male ego at work here--they're furious about looking so stupid, they're pissed that their shenanigans in the press and their fatuousness and inept police work led to two innocent kids being railroaded and by God, they will have the last word. They even ADDED time to her sentence! Completely ridiculous. I can't even imagine what she and Raffaele are going through--if I'd been him, I would've left the country as soon as the appeals court pronounced me innocent back in 2011. Now they've gone and arrested the poor guy again.
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Some filmmaker has done a documentary about the Harding/Kerrigan saga 20 years ago. I'd really like to watch this but it's airing on ESPN (which I don't get) so I'll have to go to their site or something like that to view it. Accompanying the release of the doc have been a lot of articles looking back at that whole debacle and surprisingly a lot of them seem to be more sympathetic to Harding than her typical coverage is. I'll admit it, I'm a Tonya fan. I was even back in '94 because I thought a LOT of the animosity toward her was due to classism and her looks (she wasn't as obviously pretty/elegant/whatever as Nancy was and she was more muscular and less svelte than other skaters). I remember talking about it with my Mom and was surprised to find out she liked Tonya as well. Look, I'm as much of a snob as any WASP I know but you should applaud Tonya for making something of herself, for working hard and succeeding as a skater. Because Tonya was pretty incredible when she was hitting her programs. She was an amazing jumper, the likes of which the sport has rarely seen. She was the second woman (and first American woman) to successfully throw (and land) the triple axel in competition.

The 3A is inherently difficult for women--it's a completely different kind of jump, and it's also the hardest of all jumps. Instead of skating backwards to approach, you skate forward (but you still land backwards which means that an axel has an extra half-revolution more than any other jump. So a triple axel is 3-and-a-half turns, not 3). And instead of using a toepick--toepick!--to launch yourself into the air, you have to kick your leg back and then forward--you literally launch yourself into the air. So you need upper body strength which is why it's easier for men. To put this in perspective there are still--20 years later!--only a handful of women that have accomplished this jump. Midori Ito (silver medalist in '92), Tonya, Mao Asada (silver medalist in '10, she and Kim Yu-na will battle it out for gold this year), Kimmie Meissner (US skater who was the '06 World champion) and a Russian skater and another Japanese skater. THAT'S IT. That's how significant Tonya was to the sport. And she didn't just chuck triple axels, her jumps in general had incredible power--her height was unbelievable. And her spins were great as well. No, she wasn't the most artistic skater but what she did well, she did very well. But the typical US viewer doesn't know anything about that, they just see "white trash skater" and they feel free to pass judgment on her based on that. Haw haw, look at her thighs! Haw haw, she skates to Ton Loc's Wild Thing! Haw haw--HAVE A NICE WARM CUP OF SHUT THE FUCK UP YOU CLASSIST ASS.

If you really want to see Tonya at her peak, check out her long program at the '91 Nationals where she first lands the 3A. She does it about a minute into the program and when she lands it her joy is simply incandescent. The crowd went NUTS screaming for her, and the announcers totally lost their cool. Even Dick Button was yelling his approval in his WASPy way--"oh, isn't that marvelous, isn't that superb!! Well done!!!" Very cute :) I love Dick Button. And after she lands it she still has the rest of her program to get through! Which she did, in style, and won the gold medal, the national title--over Kristi Yamaguchi who won the Olympic gold medal the next year! Anyway the program is great and girl can DANCE. She rocks the hell out to Wild Thing. (Only Tonya Harding could do her long program to both Wild Thing and Send In the Clowns :)

I haven't made up my mind about whether she was involved with the plot to hobble Nancy. I used to think she probably knew something--she admitted to "hindering prosecution" after the fact--but now I don't know. I read a great article that looks at the whole story within the framework of abuse. I don't think I'd realized that Tonya was abused by her (now ex-) husband or that she'd suffered the same under her mother. If I'd heard it, I might have hedged my bets because Tonya had a history of making dramatic claims, like the famous lace incident. But--I did not know this--apparently Tonya's laces broke all the time because of her jumps. According to the article after her '91 Skate America long program (which was flawless) she told her coach "my boot broke again." But no, the narrative was decided that Trashy Tonya was stoking drama again. Anyway the article is very interesting.

And although I've never really liked either Nancy's skating or her personality, I have some sympathy for Nancy as well (beyond, obviously, the attack which must have been horrible and which no one deserves). I did think she was snide about Oksana in the aftermath (the infamous "she's just going cry again" remark) and I didn't really like the "this is so corny remark." And I just cringed when, for her first joint practice session in Lillehammer with Tonya, she wore the white dress in which she was attacked as this kind of...statement or something. It just looked so drama queenie. Nancy, you ARE the victim, you already have tons of public sympathy, why do you have to PLAY the victim? Let your skating talk for you instead of silly junior high gestures. But maybe those remarks were meant differently (she was being sarcastic instead of mean)--maybe the public was just looking to tear her down after she'd been so propped up during the Olympics, in contrast to Tonya. I imagine she must have been bewildered by the rapid about-face.

But I still think Oksana deserved the gold :)
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Winter soccer starts tomorrow! I are excited, although I'm NOOOOTTTTTT happy about the time--our games are between 9-12 in the morning. UGH. We all know how much of a morning person I am and I flat out told Zachary "expect me to sleep through at least one game," as always happens when we play in the morning. But still, even early morning soccer is better than no soccer!

We have a free agent on our team for the first time (and I'm happy about that, we need new blood!). We met him last night at the kickoff party--he is this adorable skinny ginger Brit who's been in the country for less than a month. I talked about London to him last night and I brought up the '90s movie Sliding Doors, which was on cable last weekend. [The movie came out in '98, a year when Gwyneth Paltrow was the Jennifer Lawrence of the day--she was in EVERYTHING that year, I think at least 4 movies? Sliding Doors, Great Expectations, the remake of the Hitchcock movie with Michael Douglas, and of course my beloved Shakespeare in Love.] Anyway I said to the guy that Sliding Doors is kind of cool, in that it gives us Americans a glimpse of everyday, undramatic, ordinary life in London, lived by Londoners. We see everyday life in, say, NYC or LA all the time in American movies but usually when London is in a film, it's specifically chosen as the setting for something huge and dramatic, or it's historical or something. It's cool to see how life is in another international city. (And oh God, that beautiful clean subway! Jesus wept. HOMESICK FOR LONDON NOW THANKS OBAMA.)

I've actually been toying with the idea of traveling there or somewhere in Europe maybe this year--nah, I don't think it's in the cards. For one thing I have several trips already planned--my college and high school reunions are this year. (My HS is so small we do all-class reunions, which is why it's in an off year. I like it that way, I get to see friends from other years. But it does amount to having to plan for both reunions in the same year.) I'm also toying with the idea of going to Pittsburgh in August to see WAG Nationals. None of these trips are terribly expensive as these things go, but it adds up. Besides I still have to save for my trip to Oslo--I think I've mentioned this already but my brother got posted there so I have to make the trip at some point and see the monsters.
ceebeegee: (Helen of Troy)
Daniel Purvis, a British MAG gymnast, plows into the judges' table.

SHIT that is funny. I love how he turns around and still topples--it's so committed. And then he and the judge console each other...God, it's hilarious, I'm literally crying here at work.
ceebeegee: (Helen of Troy)
So last night I was working out and put on Lifetime on the TV (Pretty Woman was playing). And while I was there I was LUCKY enough to see several airings of the latest trailer for the Lifetime adaptation of Flowers in the Attic, which is airing next month (YAAAAAAAAAAAYYYYYYYY). I hung out with Lori last week and we discussed this AT LENGTH--I am a huge fan of the series and know this book pretty much by heart. It is one of my treasured guilty pleasures from my teens and college years. For those who have never read it, it's about a beautiful family called the Dollangangers who go to live with the mother's parents in Virginia when the father dies. When they get there the mother, Corrine, tells the kids (a son of 14, Christopher, a daughter of 12, Cathy, and twins Cory and Carrie who are 5) that they will have to be hidden "for a little while" up in the attic until they break the news to the grandfather that the prodigal daughter has returned (she eloped with her now-dead husband who was in fact her half-uncle). The "little while" stretches on and on into years--and meanwhile the grandmother, who hates the children as products of an incestuous marriage, is violently abusive. She whips them, she puts tar into Cathy's hair as punishment for what she deems vanity, she starves them. Eventually it becomes clear that Corrine just doesn't care about them anymore, certainly not in comparison to the enormous inheritance that awaits her if she can win back her father, and they start to plan an escape. All this while Chris and Cathy are growing up, entering puberty, and the only person of the opposite sex they see is each other...

The book is usually dismissed as teenage trash, and sometimes compared to Twilight. Look, I love me some Twilight but FitA is far, FAR superior. For one thing there is actual character development--Corrine, Cathy and Chris change and grow (or devolve in Corrine's case) very much throughout the book. Chris and Cathy are scarred and changed by the end of the book--in fact Cathy reenacts the events in the attic, relives these issues again and again throughout the rest of the series. [SPOILERS IF YOU HAVEN'T READ IT: The grandmother starts poisoning them with donuts--Cory, the sickly one, ends up dying [Corrine and the grandmother's callousness is truly horrific in this scene] and Chris rapes Cathy but she forgives him. The three left alive escape at the end of the book after finding out the grandfather has been dead for a long time--therefore there was no need to keep them locked up other than to protect Corrine's inheritance.] Chris is in some ways even harder hit because he truly cannot love anyone else after they leave the attic--Cathy is the ONLY one he can love. Similarly Carrie is terribly scarred and ends up killing herself with a bite from a poisoned donut, so she can die the same way her beloved twin did. There is a tragic quality to the saga that is ignored I think because of its core audience (teenage girls) and because the narrative voice is so girly and colloquial. It's also fascinating to read how carefully Andrews charts Chris and Cathy's growing attraction to each other--it is very, very subtly done. At first they are play-parents to the twins and he is her knight in shining armor. And very, very gradually he starts to notice her and she him--because there is no one else. There's a scene after they are both whipped--Cathy passes out from the pain and she wakes up in his arms. They cuddle together and he caresses her, starts to kiss her and she stops him.

That night I went to sleep after thinking of his kiss, and not the whipping or the blows from the brush. Swelling up in both of us was a turmoil of whirling emotions. Something sleeping deep inside of me had awakened, quickened, just as Aurora until the Prince came to put on her quiet lips a long lover's kiss.

That was the way of all fairy tales--ending with the kiss, and the happy-ever-after. There had to be some other prince for me to bring about a happy ending.


I was telling Lori how my sophomore year in college we had an extended period of snow--we even had a snow day which was rare for that area. So I was stuck inside quite a bit and feeling *extremely* claustrophobic. Sweet Briar, my alma mater, is in a rural section of Virginia (LIKE FOXWORTH HALL), in the piedmont area, and there is a train nearby which I used to hear at night (LIKE CHRIS AND CATHY USED TO HEAR). One day I was so sick of snow and ice that I drew flowers--roses and tulips and so forth--onto paper and then outlined them with colored yarn and put that up on my dorm walls (JUST LIKE HOW CHRIS, CATHY AND THE TWINS DECORATED THEIR ATTIC WITH PAPER FLOWERS). It hit me--I'm in Virginia, in the country, there's a train nearby, I HAVE LONG BLONDE HAIR AND MY NAME BEGINS WITH C OH MY GOOOOOODDDDDDDDD....So yeah, I had a great affection for Catherine and her messed-up story.

Here is an hilarious take on my beloved book:

He Ain't Sexy, He's My Brother

Okay, back to Lifetime. Now by and large I am happy with the casting--Heather Graham seems dead-on for Corrine, Ellen Burstyn is gonna knock it out of the park as the grandmother and the kid who's playing Chris looks good as well. I am a little concerned about Kiernan Shipka as Cathy though. Shipka, while a fine young actor, is a *character* actor--at least that's how she comes off to me. You need a young leading lady type for Cathy--you need that grace and coltish elegance because she is very much a younger version of her mother (this point is made many times in the book). Think young Natalie Portman (but blonde of course). Or Amanda Seyfried, if she can pull of the fiestiness (Cathy is the only one of the four who calls Corrine on her shit, Chris is far too busy working out his Oedipus complex).



And it is ESSENTIAL that Cathy have LONG BLONDE HAIR--Chris loves her hair, and when the grandmother puts tar on it, he slaves for a day to get the tar off. That's part of how they become closer! And later on they have a conversation about her hair, about how beautiful it is, how he thinks she might have on her head the most beautiful hair in the world--it's as much a character in the book as Janie's in Their Eyes Were Watching God! The four siblings look exactly alike, perfect, fair and blonde--like Dresden dolls, as they're called by the neighbors (and of course the fact that they're inbred contributes to that).



And there's a scene where Cathy sneaks into their mother's bedroom to steal money for their escape and stumbles upon their new stepfather who is dozing. She gazes upon him and then kisses him--and it transpires later that he was only half-asleep, remembered the kiss and thought he was dreaming. [And if you're going to stay faithful to the book you *have* to have this scene as it leads directly to Chris flipping out from jealousy and raping Cathy.] The stepfather remembers her as a kind of princess, looking longingly at him and from the footage I've seen, Shipka has short, light brown hair. She's adorable as Sally in Mad Men but I don't see her as Cathy--YET. I will absolutely keep an open mind because I really want this version to be great. [We're all still recovering from the 1987 debacle--that movie was so terrible, I literally forgot about huge chunks of it after seeing it. Oh GOD was it terrible.]

Ugh

Dec. 6th, 2013 11:56 am
ceebeegee: (Red Heather)
So a couple of days ago Ryan posted a link to my FB timeline, a video by a female scientist blogger who addressed the many stupid, trivial comments she gets compared to those received by her male counterparts. Ryan knows I'm a feminist, he posts/sends stuff like this to me frequently. The very first comment that shows up is from someone both Ryan and I know well, a guy we used to work with back in Virginia. Stephen used to (not sure if he still does) direct a lot of musicals in the dinner theater circuit. I have a somewhat contentious relationship with him--for one thing, he has acted very questionably toward some of his male actors (i.e., harassment) and yes, I have publicly called him out for that shit. He also loooooves to stoke the drama and be right in the middle of it--he will frequently cast himself in his own shows*, and he likes to set up little cliques within the cast with himself as the leader, and will designate someone within the cast as the outcast (and will trash that person behind their back and encourage other cast members to do so--unbelievable, really). I have this theory he was bullied in middle school and this is how he acts that out :(

But I actually have some respect for him--he *is* quite intelligent, and I've had some good conversations with him about musicals--he knows some very obscure ones (once he realized I too knew some pretty arcane shows, he started looking at me differently--we had a great talk about The Robber Bridegroom) and he knows (in theory anyway, as a director I feel he's basically a hack) what works/doesn't and why. I remember talking to him about a production of Hello, Dolly in which he and Ryan had appeared--the director of this production went a little overboard and went back to the source material, The Matchmaker, and added stuff to the libretto, trying to make it more thoughtful or something. SRH thought it was a bad idea (and indeed the show wasn't that great)--he said that HD was "a machine," you didn't need to rethink it or do anything amazing with it--the book and score were so tight, you just needed to cast it effectively, wind it up and let it go. I think this is kind of a hack mentality but it is an interesting--and thoughtful--take on why that production didn't work.

Ryan also told me this GREAT story about something he did to his roommate a few years ago. As I said SRH likes to set up little cliques within the shows he directs--he is very sensitive to being left out in any way (did I mention he's at least 20 years older than Ryan and me?). He had this roommate who was MUCH younger than SRH and...went out one night, I think, went out with his friends who were his age. I can't remember if the roommate was also in a show with SRH, but anyway...the roommate came home with his friend and when he flicked on the light in the living room, stumbled across SRH lying on the floor as though he'd had an accident, or a heart attack (he has heart problems) or something. As the roommate and the friend gasped and scrabbled for the phone to call 9-1-1, SRH jumps to his feet, wags a finger in their faces and says "NEXT time it could be for REAL!" and storms off.

I mean, is that an awesome story or what? Who DOES that?! Rarely do you get stories so perfectly illustrative of one's character!

Anyway so back to what Ryan posted, about how this woman scientist gets creeped on and nitpicked and dismissed, based almost entirely on her status as a woman. The VERY FIRST comment that appears is from SRH and he says this "I couldn't get that far...she needs to shut up."

I saw fucking red. I literally typed out and deleted like 5 comments. I had to remind myself to stay calm because I did NOT want to get into a huge back and forth comment war. But JESUS. Seriously? A post about how women are shit on and how their voices are silenced and THAT'S what you got out of it? YOU shut the fuck up, you fucking drama queen. What a completely tone-deaf, moronic, insensitive thing to say. Ugh, just WHY? I was livid.

Of course when I finally did respond (I said basically the above, plus "way to illustrate her point") HE had to respond about how ineffective her video was--that she went on too long, was too strident, too uninteresting, something like that. So I took a deep breath, told myself "just one more comment and that's it" and told him he needed to Google the term "tone argument," how it is used to derail discussions about not just women's issues but gay (and other minority--I used gay because SRH is gay) issues as well. How opponents of those concerns will attack the tone rather than the substance of what was said. "She's too strident." "They're too effeminate, they need to tone it down." "I would be an ally, but they turned me off." After I posted this I refused to look back--I knew he would respond, and he did but I wouldn't read it because I knew he would never back down. They never do. Someone does something stupid, they get called out, and they don't want to admit they were wrong so they double down. And I didn't want to spend the night steaming over this, so I just walked away.

Luckily others saw this--Rachel stepped in with her cool, measured response and shut him down, plus Ryan was like "what? I thought your [SRH's] post was a joke--yes, you did illustrate her point." Tesse said something supportive as well.

DICK.

I think ultimately he will have learned from this--as I see it most people who get called out for shit will put up a fight, but deep down they're thinking about it. Especially someone like SRH--for one thing he looooves Ryan, and he knows Ryan and I are very close. Also he has a grudging respect for me as I've said--I *think* he'll have learned better once he stops feeling defensive.

*It's not just that he casts himself--although I generally have a policy against this (because I find it too difficult to direct and act in the same show really well--just takes too much out of me), it's more how he does it. He'll have auditions for all the roles, waste everyone's time and then announce he's playing the lead role (or whatever role he wanted)--as though that role were just too, too hard to cast and he's taking one for the team. *Eyeroll* Sure, Stephen.
ceebeegee: (Massachusetts foliage)
Thanksgiving went super well--the bus ride there wasn't bad at all, even with the storm. It rained but didn't delay us at all--I actually was able to catch an *earlier* connecting bus. Plus my step-mother's brother was supposed to join us with his daughters and they couldn't make it, due to the storm. I'm sorry to say that I silently yippeed. The uncle is kind of annoying--one of those guys who never reached his potential and is full of "if I'd stayed in college, I would've been a Rhodes Scholar" types. I remember calling Dad's place when I was in college and they weren't there but the uncle was and he was just SO TIRESOME. He wouldn't say whether they were there or not, kept playing these dumb games like "why do you want them?" and "what do you mean by that?" Plus he ran my Dad's restaurant into the ground. It's possible he's grown up since then but frankly I didn't want to risk my warm family Thanksgiving finding out!

So anyway it was just me and the parents--much as I missed my brothers, as anyone from a large family will tell you, one-on-one time with the parents is precious! Very nice and cozy. The parents live in an old farmhouse in rural New Hampshire--the house backs up to a forest and there's a little pond right on the property. They've done a ton of remodeling on it, including adding solar panels so now the whole homestead is powered with solar energy and heated with the numerous woodburning stoves we have. I was warm enough in my little room although I had a hard time sleeping. I went jogging three times--it's like something out of a Hallmark Christmas movie, or Currier and Ives, along that road. Highland Lake on one side of the road, sweeping fields with bundles of hay back up to the forest on the other, dotted with these old New Hampshire farmhouses. Very, very pretty. I just love it there and probably should visit a lot more! It's just such a pain to get to without a car...

One thing that made it so nice was that Daddy didn't go off about political matters. I am by far the furthest left in our little nuclear unit--my brothers are moderate to conservative, Liz is kind of a grab bag, and Dad is to the right of Attila the Hun (except that he's pro-choice and pro-gay rights. But RABIDLY anti-Obama, very pro-guns, etc.). I was kind of dreading any political talk--but Dad was great, only made one anti-Obama remark in passing. I should give him more credit, he definitely does not try to shove his views down our throats. (He's always held his tongue about the rift he and his brothers have with their sisters--he has talked about it very little and certainly hasn't tried to sway US (his children) against his sisters.)

So earlier this week I had--hold on to your seats here, kids, shocking news--MORE effing tooth trouble. I noticed Tuesday night that the crown toward the front of my mouth (in other words, this tooth, and this one--the same tooth that was crapped up by my crappy, expensive, ripoff former dentist) was loose. I PANICKED--I literally went cold at my computer. Called my dentist by it was after hours and they didn't have voicemail so I emailed them, begging for any time they could take me the next day. Was really, really freaked out Tuesday evening--I was just DREADING what might happen. Another dental operation that would cost me a ton of money, after how hard I've been trying to *save* money the past few months. Then I forced myself to calm down and think rationally. You don't KNOW that will happen, and maybe it'll just be a little thing that needs correction. I was talking to God about it, actually--I was able to calm down a bit although was still super stressed Tuesday night. I was also annoyed because I wanted to go to mass the next day (there's an Episcopal church some 20 blocks away on 5th Avenue, Church of the Heavenly Rest, that I've started attending--I really like them).

The dentist's office called me promptly at 9 the next morning and told me they could fit me in at 11. Dr. Kim looked at it and it *was* just a little thing--the glue had dissolved or something, so he just pulled it out, cleaned it up and reglued it. I was literally shaking during this and he told me "don't worry, it all looks as good as it could, it's not a big deal." The best part? This cost less than $5!!! When the receptionist told me that, I said deadpan "that's outrageous, I won't pay it." And pretty much danced out of there. And made it to church! My new dentist is the BEST and I am totally going to go onto Yelp and talk him up. I used to be so terrified of the dentist--and not because I was afraid of the pain, but the MONEY. My old dentists sucked and used me as an ATM--the worst was that they KNEW how worried I was about the money. That fucking hygienist, pushing those stupid EXPENSIVE ($100/pop) Arestin shots on me--you're a fucking HYGIENIST, why are you pushing an anti-biotic onto me (the weird thing about it was she'd say "it's up to you" and I'd flatly tell her I couldn't afford it, she would REALLY lean on me and double-down the pressure), you're not a doctor! While I'm on Yelp promoting Dr. Kim, I should put a few words in about the Levingarts (old dentist). Anyway, all is well now. Smile is preserved, as well as bank account :)

I'm having one of my days-long headaches, kept at bay by abusing my economy-sized bottle of Advil. God bless drugs. These headaches aren't the really bad ones I get sometimes* they just LAST. I chug ibuprofen, they go away for a few hours, then they're right back. I also massage the back of my head and around my ears a lot, which helps a little.

*About once or so every 3 years I will get absolutely TERRIBLE headaches, as bad as migraines, the kind where I literally cannot move or get up the pain is so bad. They last about 20 minutes and then taper off after that (so, not true migraines).
ceebeegee: (Massachusetts foliage)


You Are Pumpkin Pie

You are sweet as can be, and nothing makes you feel sweeter than a Thanksgiving spread.
Thanksgiving is a fun and festive holiday for you. You do your best to make sure everyone has a good time.

You may be nice, but you're not boring. You know how to spice up Thanksgiving when it gets too dull.
You are warm, friendly, and fun. You're the guest that people want at their Thanksgiving dinner.



ceebeegee: (soccer)
So, moar soccer this past weekend. Played with the Saturday group in da Bronx and scored twice again--the second goal was kind of cool, one of my teammates looped a pass over 3-4 opponents to me and I one-touched it into the goal. Everyone (including the opposing team) congratulated me! I like that group because it's FREE and there seem to be enough players showing up regularly that it's a nice big group (which means it's mostly full field). Plus everyone seems cool. Plus it's FREE.

Sunday my Dolphman team (my league team) had a game and it was FUCKING FREZZING OUT. In the 20s with WIND. We were actively rooting--praying, even--for the game to be cancelled but luckily it wasn't because the other team didn't have enough players so we got the forfeit. We had to push for it though--I saw that four of their mandated 7 players wore red--the red team in this league is in first place, they're like a family of amazing soccer players and we've already had our asses handed to them. I objected to the ref saying hey, we've played them already, if yellow doesn't have enough players then they should forfeit. So finally yellow (grudgingly) agreed then we played for fun and honestly, everyone had a great time! We played quite well as a team--set up well and passed well and got off TONS of shots. And I SCORED, my third Dolphman goal of the season! (Cutely the whole team was excited, including all the guys--Vlady, our huge defender, came up and slapped my hand.) (I know it must be annoying that I gloat so much about scoring but I remind you that I'm ELDERLY compared to these guys--everyone on the field is at least 10-15 years younger than I am.) That's the first time I've ever scored three times within one league season, so I was super-thrilled. Again, league goals are rarer (I score all the time in pickup games)--teams that play with each other regularly are better, plus they have dedicated goalies whereas in pickup everyone switches off as goalie.

Afterward we were completely freezing so no one was in the mood for beer. BUT--after we split up into little groups, my group saw Cameron Diaz pass us in the crosswalk! Both Adam and I stared at each other, then back at her, and then broke out into excited conversation.
ceebeegee: (soccer)

This weekend was chock full of soccer goodness. At the last minute I decided to sign up for a pickup game in the Bronx and it ended up with a decent amount of players--by the end it was 7 on 7 or 8 on 8, and the field was almost full field (which I love). I scored twice and assisted on a beautiful goal--I passed it square to a guy who was standing in front of the goal with a couple of defenders between him and the goal. He did a kind of forward bicycle kick--kind of dove forward and flipped up his leg in back, kicked the ball over his head and it went in. As I told him "that is some World Cup shit!" I've played with this group before but we never had this many people--it was nice. And free! And no obnoxious chauvinists.

Ryan came over and I made an apple pie in front of him. And it was guuuuuuuuud. We each had a piece of warm pie (complete with requisite pie jokes) with some Southern Tier Pumking Ale (he'd never had any--I introduced him to The Crack That Is Pumking Ale. Best pumpkin ale, bar none. It legit tastes like liquid, alcoholic pumpkin pie).

And Sunday my league team had a game. We've switched leagues and are getting HAMMERED--there are some really good teams in this league and they're all spanking us. Until yesterday I think we'd scored--all season--only 4 goals. (Of which one was mine :) Finally yesterday we played like I know we can--we passed and set up plays and took our time--and we won, 3-1, a nice decisive victory! (And yes, I scored :) The second league season in a row I've scored two goals. (It's harder to score in league games--the teams tend to be better and they have dedicated goalies. Pickup games are easier to score.) I'm especially proud of Zachary, our captain, who just does not like passing that much--he actually set up the goal I scored. We were all super happy afterwards.

The other team was nice--they played kind of rough but I do think it was just the way they played and not because they were dicks. I was chatting here and there with one of their defenders, a girl with an accent. I asked her "are you English?" and she said yes. I said give me a couple of minutes and I might be able to tell from which region. I told her I was an actor practicing my RP, having just watched The King's Speech (again). She said she knew I as an actor since I knew what RP was and I said "yes, I listen to George VI's speeches and then I read Harry Potter out loud since that was written by an English person." She said I'd pick up some good slang that way as well.

And on of their guys paid me a compliment, saying he'd never seen anyone who attacked as much as I did. I said well, that's pretty much the sum of my skill set--I attack! I shoot again and again. Eventually one's gonna go in--as it did! (Although I was kind-of kidding to make a joke and not to sound like a dick--I do have some skills as a player. But my main asset is that I am always on the attack which is why I'm kind of wasted as a defender!)

This made me think of when I lived in New Hampshire with my Dad, 7th through 9th grades. The high school there was a regional HS, very large student body and quite a sports powerhouse. The gym was literally wallpapered with sports banners--for the past 4 years alone, they had been state football champions. It was assumed every year we would win district and regional titles in nearly every sport, and girls' soccer was one of them. When I started playing soccer there I was on the JV team and I stood out--in fact I was the lead scorer, and scored 2-3 goals in many games. My coach called me "Green, Green, the Scoring Machine" (a nickname I LOVED, as you can imagine!). I did so well in fact, that I was bumped up to the varsity team. This was a huge honor (it was rare for freshman to make the varsity team, although I certainly wasn't the only one) but mainly what I did was warm the bench during the varsity games and get game time during the JV games. This was fine--as long as I played I was happy, and of course I wasn't as good as the older players and didn't expect to get that much varsity game time. But I did practice with the varsity team and hence had to deal with our coach, Mr. Hanchett.

I don't know if the thinking has evolved since then--this was in the '80s--but I have to say, if my daughter had a coach like Hanchett, I would yank her off the team. To be plain-spoken, he was awful to us--borderline abusive, really. He never actually hit any of us (that I know of) but he screamed at us constantly, levied many personal insults and reveled in our humiliation. Think Kreese from The Karate Kid--he really was just like that. One incident I remember was when he singled me out during a practice. Our standard forward formation was 5 across but not straight across--we had to stagger the line so we could pass forward and advance. For some reason during a run our line had flattened out and he was screaming at us "YOU'RE FLAT, THE FORWARDS ARE FLAT, GODDAMMIT, THAT LOOKS HORRIBLE!" Then he looks at me and yells "Girls aren't supposed to be flat, right, Green? Does that embarrass you?!" I glared at him and said "NO." Seriously, dude, I have 3 brothers, is that the best you can do?! And does it make you feel better to pick on a freshman, a girl literally half your size? But the thing is, you can't really teach girls that way. (I hate to say just girls--I don't think boys should be coached that way either, but I've never coached boys so I'm less sure of how they'd react.) Girls don't respond well to that kind of humiliation--it didn't make us work harder, it just made us hate practice, and hate him. The worst was when members of the opposing teams--the girls we were playing against--would give us these incredulous looks and mutter "how can you play with that going on?" I remember shrugging and saying briskly "we all hate him." But--we loved the game. We wanted to play, and just kind of endured his presence.

Then it got even weirder when he started *favoring* me--but only in his creepy "I like you so I'm going to single you out" way. I remember standing in the milk line and him coming up to me, slapping 20 cents into my hand--he literally grabbed my wrist, turned it up, and slapped down the money--and saying "two milks" and walking away. I remember just staring at the money, like "WTF, now I gotta deal with THIS shit?! God, I thought I only had to put up with him at practice!" And I remember my friend staring at me aghast, like WHY are you going along with this?! And I shrugged and said he'll take it out on me in practice--it's just easier this way. I remember him telling me how my greatest strength as an athlete was my hustle--that I never gave up, that I was always going for that goal. (Naturally of course he said it in this sneering, let-me-put-you-in-your-place tone.)

We went to States that year and finished second--a great disappointment to us, since we'd beaten Central twice during the regular season. I still have the program with everyone's names and jersey numbers and positions, and our second place medals (I sewed it to my letter on my letterman's jacket. Oh, I am *such* a jock :) And Hanchett put me into the game toward the end--and believe me, he didn't play everyone that game. On the other hand I distinctly remember he did it to humiliate another player, a junior, whom he didn't think was hustling enough. *Sigh*.

Then it really got weird toward the end of the year. I'd decided I was going back to Virginia to live with my Mom again, so I'd be leaving this school obviously. Hanchett taught history, and one of my sophomore friends who had class with me told me he'd been talking about me in history. I was like--are you kidding me? She said he was talking about what a shame it was that I was moving--that I was a gifted athlete and a great soccer player and an asset to the team. My jaw--literally--dropped open. I honestly had no idea how to process that because he was SUCH a dick to us. Like--dude, you couldn't say that TO ME? To my face? Oh, I had all the adolescent feelz.

A couple of years late--I think it was the summer before my junior or senior year--when I was visiting my dad for the summer, I heard somehow (maybe I ran into a former teammate in town) that Mr. Hanchett was doing summer soccer--informal scrimmages with other schools before practice actually started in August. I showed up at the pickup spot and ended up riding with Hanchett and two freshmen. Hanchett was actually--civil! Nice, even! And now that I was beyond his reach, I took full advantage and was quite cheeky to him, saying things like "now that my coach isn't screaming at me, I'm actually enjoying the game." He didn't seem to mind at all. And I clearly remember the two freshmen in the back giving me these looks of horror, like how do you DARE? Afterwards they were grilling me, asking me "aren't you scared of him?!" I said "Nope. Not anymore" ;)

ceebeegee: (Tatiana the Sausage Kitty)

Tibbles 'n' Bits went to the new vet today for the first time. I really like this vet--although they are NOT cheap (~$15 more expensive per visit than the place in Inwood), they are very respectful of money issues and did not pressure me to vaccinate either of the babies (especially since they're both indoor kittehs). The assistant was cooing over how handsome Tibby was and he acted a little better than he did at the place in Inwood. He still seemed nervous but didn't try to hide quite so much--although at one point I was standing next to the examination table and he pushed his head into the crook of my arm to hide his face and not see the doctor. Meanwhile his enormous fuzzy body was still in view! It was pretty adorable.

The trip there was kind of stressful. Tibby HATES the carrier, no matter how luxurious it is (I have two and the bigger one is The Gold Standard, very comfortable) and started howling immediately. I made my mortified way down to the lobby and onto the sidewalk, Tibby's plaintive ululating issuing forth piteously from the carrier. The subway was stressful--I'd sat down with the carrier against the back of the seat, to protect him. I only had two stops but wouldn't you know it--at the first stop, the doors opened and at least 30 kids, plus teachers and aides, tumbled into the car and were ALLLL up in my business. As in, one of the kids (they were about 7 years old) was literally CRAWLING across my knees to sit on the seat. I was myself majorly stressing out--I do NOT like crowds, the subway is stressful enough, but I also have a terrified animal with me! I don't know why the teachers didn't correct them--they could see my reacting protectively toward the carrier and they had to have known I was nervous. It was honestly very rude. I told one of the teachers I'd be getting off at the next stop and two of the kids reacted by literally *leaning* into me, like right in my face, so they could scramble into my seat when I vacated it. It was seriously quite annoying and I felt bad for my Tibbles 'n' Bits.

Interestingly, something I've suspected for awhile has been confirmed--Tibby is "a little bit" overweight. (They also agree with me that he may be part Maine Coon cat--a notoriously large breed.) The doctor said it wasn't bad, just try to feed him separately from Tatia so he doesn't gobble her food, and feed him less.

My baby boy is healthy! Precious sweet scared lamb-kin. I always feel so responsible and adult when I take the babies to the vet.

ceebeegee: (Massachusetts foliage)
I'm starting to settle into my new place and establishing a rhythm of sorts. I have a couple of priorities I'm trying to honor--the main one is financial stability. After buying the new place I have a larger monthly nut than I did when I lived with Anya--the mortgage + maintenance is more (not much more but still), plus I now have twice the cable/internet bill (since I got Fios) and an electric bill (when Anya and I lived together I paid for the internet and she paid for ConEd, and we would figure the difference once a year). So for the past month or so I've been seeing how much I can cut other expenses--how much fat is in the budget? A lot more than you'd think, and I've eliminated a lot of it. When I shop for groceries now, I force myself to get *only* what's on the list. If I hang out with my soccer team afterward I get one beer and that's it. No Pinkberry, no afternoon treats at work, turn off the lights every chance I get--it's what I like to call my Nicolae Ceaucescu Austerity Program. So it's worked quite well so far! My ConEd bill went WAY down and I cut over $200 from my monthly MasterCard bill. I know I can get it down even further, but that will have to wait until the winter. Between taking Thing 1 and Thing 2 to the vet last month and this (each visit is a cool $95--yikes!), plus travel home for the holidays, plus presents and other assorted holiday expenses, I'm hit a little hard the next couple of months.

It's difficult for me to earn much more money than I do right now unless I get a raise or an outside job (both possibilities) but there are other sources for funds. For one thing, my income tax refund in the spring which is usually pretty sizable. Another is the cash rewards program on my credit card--it is tallied every month and awarded to me at the end of the year. Since I pay my balance in full every month, I don't pay interest so that's free cash, as it were. Not a lot, true, but every bit helps!

The money I'll be saving goes to two purposes--1) paying down the mortgage faster (I'm adding extra money every month toward the principal) and 2) savings (not that it's doing anything there, rates are so low right now). Although I think some of that will also go toward my Roth IRA--I'd like to up my monthly allocation.
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The Exorcist has been playing on TV that past few weeks so I've had a chance to check it out again. Still one of the most terrifying movies of all time, in my opinion. Peter and I talked about it once--it's kind of stunning that movie only won two Academy Awards. Two! It was nominated for a bunch but only won for adapted screenplay and sound mixing. Peter said that when Ellen Burstyn won the following year for Alice Doesn't Live Here Anymore, it was just kind of understood that it was REALLY for The Exorcist, that the Academy was making it right. Okay, so good. But let's look at Linda Blair's performance, which was also nominated for Supporting Actress. This was the year that really showed up what a sausagefest Hollywood was (and is)--there were so few decent roles for women, they had to nominate two little girls to fill out the slate for Supporting Actress.* Another nominee, Candy Clark, was given the nod for her role in American Graffiti--now I happen to love that movie but it's not exactly Long Day's Journey Into Night! Candy Clark's role was kind of insubstantial and fluffy (she was great, don't get me wrong, but not Oscar-bait, IMO). Now looking at the performances of the two little girls. Tatum O'Neal won for Paper Moon, becoming the youngest Oscar winner in history (and smoking out her dad, who wasn't nominated at all for PM! Good, Ryan O'Neal's a tool. A hot tool, but a tool nonetheless). If you watch Paper Moon, Tatum is not exactly a supporting actor--she CARRIES the film from start to finish. I think she's in every scene! And she was nine AND it was her first film. An amazing accomplishment. That said--again, Addie isn't the most difficult role. Tatum was essentially playing herself. So why did Tatum win?

Well, when The Exorcist premiered, everyone was blown away by Linda Blair's performance. This sweet little girl, turning into THAT? (Stephen King's discourse on American horror media, Danse Macabre, talks a lot about this movie, it's very interesting. He connects the surge in "demon child" movies in the mid-'70s [eg., The Omen, It's Alive, etc.] to the lingering fears of the youthquake of the late '60s.) And the voices were a big part of the reaction--the voices are viscerally terrifying. I can't even type out some of those lines, they creep me out so much. Oscar noms came out and Linda Blair got one for Supporting Actress and seemed well on her way to a victory. Then la scandale emerged--Linda hadn't done all of the voice work. A longtime actress, Mercedes McCambridge (I saw her in Giant, James Dean's last film) did much of the voice work and was never credited--Linda's performance was seen as tarnished and the Academy reactively gave it to Tatum. But rewatching it this week--it really sucks that she got caught up in that crap, because she gave an amazing performance even beyond the voice. She literally became another person--she played a fucking demon, for God's sake! She was strapped into that disgusting bed for weeks on end in that freezing room and had to spew pea soup all over everyone! What's really interesting is that she's better (that is, her performance is more compelling and real) when she's possessed than when she's plain old Regan--when she's essentially playing herself. It's just too bad that her career didn't really go anywhere after that so she couldn't get a "makeup Oscar" the way Ellen Burstyn did.

*See also 1976, when Jodi Foster was nominated for Taxi Driver, and Sissy Spacek and Piper Laurie were nominated for a genre film--horror, no less!--with Carrie. The Exorcist doesn't really count as a genre film, it goes deeper than that, delving into religion and psychology as well as horror--certainly it's deeper than Carrie. See also: Quinn Cummings, another little girl, nominated for The Goodbye Girl. (She was SO CUTE in that movie--love her!) Also see also: Leslie Browne nominated for her painfully terrible performance in The Turning Point. Oscar had to fill out the slate somehow!
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