Gift Etiquette

[ceebeegee]

I was invited to the wedding of a family friend last May--couldn't go, so I sent my regrets and ordered them a gift.  (And it wasn't cheap either, although that is only relevant in that the gift incurred a certain amount of sacrifice because I've known the groom literally all his life.)  STILL haven't received a thank you note yet.  Nor has Mom.  It is annoying.  People really need to learn about what is the correct thing to do--when someone makes the effort to pick out a gift and send it to you, it doesn't take that much time to write a quick note.

And Miss Manners backs me up here:

However, it is true that a wedding present may be sent within a year of the wedding, while no such leeway is allowed the recipients, who must send thanks immediately.

Comments

[kellygirlnyc.livejournal.com]

I'm the jerk that just finished the thank you notes for her baby shower a month and a half ago. It was such a relief to get them done. I would have done them sooner, but crap kept happening.

It's not a good excuse, but at least it wasn't 7 months after, like that wedding. I would say maybe she misplaced her list or whatever, but to have not gotten to you OR your mom, sounds like she just can't pull it together.

[ceebeegee.livejournal.com]

But it's THEY! He is just as responsible--in fact I know HIM, I've only met her once! I'm just like--dude, send me SOMETHING. I don't even know they've received it!

It's not like you stand over people with a stop watch, it's more like--come on, SOME kind of good faith effort!

[carasol.livejournal.com]

I was just discussing this with a coworker today...When someone sends me something, I usually call them right away to thank them and talk for a bit. I know I should send cards, too, but somehow I rarely do. I need to start making it a habit...

Will start doing that now, actually! :-)

[ceebeegee.livejournal.com]

Well, calling is a wonderful gesture and definitely indicates a good faith effort. But there is something about a note...

Thanks for hanging out tonight, BTW! xoxo

[xinher.livejournal.com]

Did they actually get the gift? Maybe that's why no thank you note.

If they did though, yeah, I'm with you.