if you feel you're being followed there are 2 good tricks: walk out into the street, obviously carefully; you'll attract attention and dissuade your follower from following, or start yelling out the physical characteristics of the person following you really loudly.
I've done the former, many times. Also I've taken out my Mace canister, elaborately so they know I have it. I've also told them to stop following me. And then one time in the Village, when a car full of Guidos was saying stuff to me, I pulled out the Mace and walked toward them, about to spray it. They TOOK OFF when they realized what I had in my hand, screaming (yes, screaming, not yelling) "BITCH!!! out the window, and I stood there on the sidewalk flipping them off and just busted a gut laughing. Man, that was funny. Fucking assholes. Bet someone had to bleach their tighty-whities the next day.
But yeah, it's different when you're in a bar, a nice comfortable safe place like Marie's. There's also the whole "delayed anger" thing a lot of women have, I in particular. You're focused on enjoying yourself, and denying that the staring is making you uncomfortable--you're thinking "if I just ignore him, he'll get it." The anger takes awhile to build--I just wanted to have a good time, and not have to get angry at this guy, you know?
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I've done the former, many times. Also I've taken out my Mace canister, elaborately so they know I have it. I've also told them to stop following me. And then one time in the Village, when a car full of Guidos was saying stuff to me, I pulled out the Mace and walked toward them, about to spray it. They TOOK OFF when they realized what I had in my hand, screaming (yes, screaming, not yelling) "BITCH!!! out the window, and I stood there on the sidewalk flipping them off and just busted a gut laughing. Man, that was funny. Fucking assholes. Bet someone had to bleach their tighty-whities the next day.
But yeah, it's different when you're in a bar, a nice comfortable safe place like Marie's. There's also the whole "delayed anger" thing a lot of women have, I in particular. You're focused on enjoying yourself, and denying that the staring is making you uncomfortable--you're thinking "if I just ignore him, he'll get it." The anger takes awhile to build--I just wanted to have a good time, and not have to get angry at this guy, you know?