I would have said, "Loser, you are not getting any money from me. YOU wanted to take me out to an expensive place, YOU urged me to pick an expensive wine. It was all YOUR idea. Now suffer the consequences of your decision. And by the way, I never want to see you again. Stop wasting my time."
Then again, in the second year of the relationship with my ex, ie when he had more money, he wanted to go to an expensive restaurant, I would make sure to tell him that if he wanted to go we could BUT that I would not be able to afford it or to contribute unless we went to a less expensive place.
The problem here was even though he understood my financial situation, he would go ahead and take me to the expensive restaurant and pay, and then years later I came to find out that he resented me for having to pay. My ex clearly had prior notice that we should have gone to a cheaper place if he wanted me to contribute.
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Then again, in the second year of the relationship with my ex, ie when he had more money, he wanted to go to an expensive restaurant, I would make sure to tell him that if he wanted to go we could BUT that I would not be able to afford it or to contribute unless we went to a less expensive place.
The problem here was even though he understood my financial situation, he would go ahead and take me to the expensive restaurant and pay, and then years later I came to find out that he resented me for having to pay. My ex clearly had prior notice that we should have gone to a cheaper place if he wanted me to contribute.