Dude. If you offer to pay, you should pay. A guy once asked me out, named the restaurant (and it wasn't cheap) and then asked for a contribution at the end--and I was pretty poor at the time. He did pay most of it but I thought that was very poor form. If I'd known he wanted a contribution, I would've suggested a less expensive restaurant.
I could not agree more. I have gone dutch and treated the guy many times. However, one V-Day, my bf at the time told me that he wanted to take me out to a really nice place, that I should pick the restaurant and "Money was no object." I offered up a few mid-priced places but he said that he wanted it to be really posh and special so I we finally agreed on a really nice place. At dinner, when the wine list came, he urged me to pick something expensive to make the night really special, so I did. At the time, I was a poor grad student and he had a decent job. I went on the date and did not bring my wallet, only my license, which was stupid but anyway, the check came and he looked at me. I said, "I didn't bring any money." He said, "You can pay me back for your half later."
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Date: 2004-06-16 11:00 am (UTC)I could not agree more. I have gone dutch and treated the guy many times. However, one V-Day, my bf at the time told me that he wanted to take me out to a really nice place, that I should pick the restaurant and "Money was no object." I offered up a few mid-priced places but he said that he wanted it to be really posh and special so I we finally agreed on a really nice place. At dinner, when the wine list came, he urged me to pick something expensive to make the night really special, so I did. At the time, I was a poor grad student and he had a decent job. I went on the date and did not bring my wallet, only my license, which was stupid but anyway, the check came and he looked at me. I said, "I didn't bring any money." He said, "You can pay me back for your half later."